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Terry L. Ledford, Ph.D.
I was sexually abused when a child and verbally. My question is when I mentally say no my actions do it anyway and now when I want todo what is right I don’t do it, when I’m doing something right and tell others I don’t do it again. I better explain myself more I had Measles and Encephylitus when I was about eighteen months old which damaged my right temporal lobe which makes it hard to say what I want to but I’m trying my best. I was verbally abused by my mother and at school and was taught to walk and talk like everyone else but was not allowed to be myself I was being what I was shown. I lived in a hole of my own making more to keep others out than in. I am now sixty-two and am still struggling to be who I was born to be I’m asking for help for I’ve used all my resources up and am stuck can you advise me please. I just don’t Love Myself the way God loves me HELP.
Robbie
I sounds like you have certainly had a number of negative childhood experiences. These experiences would likely impact your beliefs about yourself and your expectations of the world. It could also make you distrustful of others. If you haven’t done so, I would recommend that you pursue counseling to work on the self-beliefs. Also, a consultation with a neurologist might be helpful regarding the possible impact of the temporal lobe damage on impulse control. Otherwise, I would recommend that you read my book, “Parables for a Wounded Heart” and/or take my udemy.com course, “Reclaiming Your Positive Self-Esteem.” You can get the book from Amazon.com and check out the four-hour course on udemy.com. Also, take a moment and imagine that another child (possibly one you know) had experienced the same things you did. Would that child have the same self-esteem that you have? Would that child also have difficulty trusting others? If so, it points out that your self-esteem is the result of your bad experiences, not a definition of who you are.